IT’S WONDERFUL TO SEE YOU!

WHAT A REMARKABLE THING TO SAY to a newly divorced man (woman)! This greeting must be used in deep and loving openheartedness. One must always mean what they say…

Selah.

Recently, I found out that a very precious couple were divorced. They don’t know me well, but we belong to the same body of believers. Divorce hurts and stuns everyone involved in every way. Every couple I knew or knew of who were divorced hurt me because I could feel their pain, their anguish and their extreme disappointment. Unfortunately, many people feel they are a failure when the second most crucial relationship in their lives had died… God being the first, of course.

Selah.

When a man or woman becomes single again many wonderfully loving brethren try to cheer them up. It’s natural. We children of God always want the best for everyone; or, perhaps those who don’t are not truly children of God.

Selah.

I have no doubt that the divorced person hears these things; and hears them more than they care to:

• “I’m so sorry about your divorce!”
• “I know it’s not all your fault.”
• “Things will get better.”
• “You can always find someone new…”
• “It’s normal to be depressed right now.”
• “Maybe you should go on a vacation.”
• “Let me tell you about my experiences with divorce.”

And the suggestions go on. If they are well-meaning people, hopefully the person in despair will understand and really appreciate the meaningful love of these attempts at helpful and encouraging counsel.

But: this is what God gave me and it is a truly sublime and heartening statement of love! “It’s so wonderful to see you!”

NOTE:  thoughts of suicide must be prayed against when it comes to divorce; for they say (and I don’t know if they’re right, but I believe so) divorce is more painful than the death of a loved one who remains a loved one and who goes home to be with the Lord of all where they will meet with their spouse again.

Prayer must be lifted up for this couple, wanting God’s will and His will only. Beloved, it is never impossible for divorce to end in defeat; the couple be reunited with a deeper committed love. But, remember it takes two to love – that is why God has children, true children, who become apostates.

Selah.

NOTE: please visit my article, What I Live For, dated February 4. This will explain the truth many deny about apostates. It is not once saved, always saved:

Hebrews 3:14
We have come to share in Christ, if indeed we hold our original conviction firmly to the very end.

THE EXCELLENT POINT my statement will make to the newly divorced man or woman is this: he is still loved by others (maybe loved in a different way with his ex) and he is missed when not around, making also the greeter’s day even better when he or she can say: “It is wonderful to see you!” We need to let the divorced person know he (she) is needed and loved still!

It is wonderful to let this person know he is still a gift to many from God on High! It is wonderful that the divorced is still living and moving. It is wonderful that they are not quitting on life nor relationships. It is wonderful that he or she may respond to this greeting something like:” It’s great to see you, too!” It is wonderful to love and encourage anyone…

Selah.

For those of you who do not know, I love preaching this truth: divorce is not a sin. God allows it, hates it, but knows sometimes we are weak. Sometimes we are just plain stupid. And that is why He told Moses to give certificates of divorce.

Matthew 19:1-12
When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.  I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”  The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

So, divorce is not a sin; and not only is this biblical truth – being divorced does not send anyone to Hell.

Selah.

SOME VERY WISE COUNSEL to those who want to uplift and encourage their divorced brethren, family members, acquaintances and anyone else:

• Don’t seek out the cause
• Don’t take sides
• Don’t forget to pray
• Don’t think it’s the end of their world!